Welcome to Part 4 of this 5-part series about how the Gene Keys can help you specifically if you’re a parent. In this episode, I’ll share about my parenting journey and how the Gene Keys helped me as a parent.
At one point on my parenting adventure, I’d already become mindful of how I needed to be as a mom, but I still struggled with showing up as my best self with my family.
I’d taken many positive parenting courses by then, and I’d invested in so many coaching and personal development programmes, but I was still finding it very difficult to actually implement some of the advice and follow through on the actions.
And I was still getting triggered by my kids, especially when running on low energy at the end of the day.
At the time also, I was going through my next phase of upleveling myself. I had big goals of growing my creative writing projects, as well as launching my own heart-led business.
So, I was feeling overwhelmed, as well as guilty that I was daring to be so ambitious instead of just settling with my engineering career and focusing the rest of my efforts on my family. There was a huge critical voice inside me telling me I was greedy to want all this.
But I was at that stage of awareness where I knew I couldn’t settle. I knew that my fulfilment and happiness would also lift my family up.
So I consciously decided to go after my big vision and stay committed, even though I didn’t know how I was going to do it.
After a couple of years of trial and error, the universe finally led me to the Gene Keys.
Other than giving me a good roadmap for fulfilment (which I talk about in this previous post), here are the top 3 ways that the Gene Keys particularly helped me with my parenting journey:
1. The Gene Keys have helped me embody inner calm and being present in the moment.
This is because being on the Gene Keys journey requires me to pause and take things slow, to be still and to look inwards.
I’ve learned to practise contemplation, a powerful Gene Keys technique which is a mix of meditation and concentration, and which involves not only mental processing but also emotional and visceral engagement, and ends up as a full-body holistic experience.
This has helped me embody my learnings. Embodiment means I become who I want to be in my 3D reality; I don’t just dream about it and envision it, I become it. I follow through with my learnings and my visions. I make permanent changes to my way of being in my daily life.
2. The Gene Keys have helped me understand my parenting triggers.
They helped me get to the deepest root cause of my triggers and showed me how to deal with it right at its origin.
They exposed my reactive patterns and showed me where I feel the need to defend myself. Then they showed me the ‘keys’ to dismantle my defence and transform my patterns.
In particular, my insights from my Evolution Sphere in the Activation Sequence, as well as my EQ and IQ spheres in the Venus Sequence, have tremendously enhanced the way I show up as a loving mom. My relationship with my kids (as well as with my husband) has become stronger and more peaceful.
3.The Gene Keys have allowed me to accept all parts of me.
This radical acceptance of who I am now helps me quickly shift to an inner state of love and joy. From this state, I can then give more to my family.
Before the Gene Keys, I used to consider certain aspects of myself as weaknesses, and I used to be ashamed of them.
For example, I’m a multi-passionate person by nature, but I used to think that being multi-passionate was a weakness, that having multiple interests made me a scattered person, spread too thin, and not professional enough.
I was even told that being multi-passionate only meant I had a lack of commitment, that I was only procrastinating and I had shiny object syndrome. This used to make me feel so ashamed.
Now, from my Gene Keys profile, I’ve learned that I have Line 3 in my Core Wound/ Vocation Sphere, which means I’m wired to be multi-passionate. I’m wired to love adventures and new experiences. Through my inner child work with the Gene Keys Venus Sequence, I’ve made peace with this Line 3.
I now embrace the fact that I’m multi-passionate. I give myself permission to work on multiple projects at the same time, instead of resisting my natural tendencies and beating myself up. This keeps me excited and happy, which in turn reflects well on my relationship with my family.
I have many other examples that I’ll share later. Ultimately, my journey along the Gene Keys Golden Path has been an experience of understanding and accepting myself, of making peace with who I am.
And the more peaceful I am, the better I can show up to my kids.
I talk about this a lot because I wish that everyone can have this experience of peace.
If you want a free taster of the Gene Keys, visit the New to the Gene Keys course on the Gene Keys website.